1. Realize that people don't care as much as you think they might.Most people won't notice that you bought a new car or got a promotion, and you shouldn't be basing your happiness on their judgments anyway. On the flip side, if they're showering you with attention, don't let it go to your head.
2. The people who truly care about you aren't interested in your accomplishments and possessions; they're interested in you.It's called love, and you'll know when someone congratulating you on your new job is jealous or truly happy for you. When you find people who love you, do everything you can to hold onto them, because they'll be your foundation.
3. Arranging your life around money won't make you happy.Focus on your passion, not your paycheck. Freeman says he knew a man who spent his career amassing six figures in savings, but died of cancer before he could even touch it.
4. Debt is not a necessary burden of adulthood.If you're making an investment in your career by going to school, then your student debt is something you'll need to manage. But just because it's become normative, do not consider debt a rite of passage into adulthood. It can present a dangerous imbalance of your finances.
5. Rhetoric is powerful.Figure out what elicits certain responses from people, and you'll be better able to influence others. "When you know how to speak in order to change someone's mind, to instill confidence in someone, to quiet the fears of a child, then you will know this power firsthand," writes Freeman.
6. You have a responsibility to everyone, and a responsibility for only yourself.Freeman thinks that by merely existing we have a responsibility to recognize the humanity in everyone and offer help to those in need. Ultimately, however, you have control over only yourself, and it's on to you to find success and happiness.
7. Prepare for the unexpected.Do all that you can to understand the way things work, whether it be how your company functions or how your government is operating. But understand that no amount of knowledge can prepare you for chaos that will inevitably hit you throughout your life. Always have a Plan B.
8. You can't let others define you.While humans are built to be part of communities, don't let other people or ideologies tell you who you are.
9. You must always go beyond what is required.To become successful, outperform the other guy. And when you're at the top, compete with yourself.
10. Self-awareness is endlessly valuable.If you can see yourself the way others see you, you will be able to work with and get along with others more easily.
11. Biases affect everything you do.Your worldview works its way into every decision you make. If you know your biases, you can minimize acting selfishly and do what is right for the situation.
12. Living in the present will keep you focused.Accept that the past can't be changed, and make the most of what's in front of you.
13. People who are very different from you can enrich your life.Surrounding yourself with like-minded people can limit your creativity, but if you seek out new perspectives, you grow faster and learn more.
14. Travel. Travel more.Not only will being exposed to other ways of living give you a new perspective on life, it will take your brain off autopilot and allow you to return to work refreshed.
15. It's important to keep taking risks until you find your passion.If you haven't found a job that makes you happy, don't settle.
16. You must take care of your health.You can't focus on your career if you're continually set back by indulging your vices or ignoring health problems.
17. Your reputation must be protected.Guard your reputation with all that you have. Make habits of being honest, reliable, and kind, and others will notice.
18. Emotions should not guide decision-making.A knee-jerk reaction influenced by anger or panic can destroy a lifetime of work in one moment. Wait until you are calm before making a big decision.
19. Forgive others and yourself.Strangers and loved ones alike will hurt and disappoint you. React accordingly, but do not hold grudges. It takes a tremendous amount of energy to fuel hatred.
20. Seek a greater purpose.You live in a world much bigger than yourself. Figure out how you'd like to give back.
21. Life is short.Use a sense of urgency to make the most of your time.
22. There's a lot you don't know.If there's a task you can delegate to someone better suited for it, then do it. If there's a discussion about something you're not sufficiently knowledgeable about, resist the urge to jump in.
23. You need to be honest with yourself.If you're going to grow as a person, it's important to see unpleasant things for what they are.
24. Happiness is a choice.Your attitude is a decision. Choosing to be happy and optimistic, regardless of the situation, yields more success than negativity.
25. Confidence will take you places.When you believe in yourself, others tend to believe what you have to say.
26. Everyone is afraid.Realize that everyone is afraid of failing. The successful ones know how to accept their fears and keep anxiety from restraining them.
27. Everyone hurts.That's why it's important to be kind to everyone. Even a small gesture of kindness can have a big impact.
28. Nothing is perfect.Unlike in the movies, the good guys don't always win. Appreciate what you have, and you'll be stronger and happier because of it.
29. You can learn from the countless successes before you.It's good to have heroes. Borrow liberally from their advice, and you will find what works for you.
30. Luck is the most elusive aspect of success.It can be easy to give up when you're talented and work hard but aren't getting a break. Remember that you find good fortune by constantly moving forward.
One of the first starting points to follow our dreams is to stop dreaming.
Yes, stop daydreaming about what you’d love to do, or who you would love to be and start giving small steps towards achieving your goals.
A long road is made of little steps, so no matter how small your efforts may seem to be… they’re leading you on the path to achieve what you want.
BECAUSE LIFE IS TOO SHORT
You've heard about this too many times but it never really hit you till you faced a loss, either of a loved one or a door was shut on your face and you were forced to realize how fragile life is and how everything can change in a second. Yes, life is very short and none of us knows how much time we have on this beautiful earth, so start living now. Focus on the now is one of the most important things you have to do.
Your future starts right now. Everything you’ll have and achieve in your future, will be a consequence of the steps you took today. The most powerful moment of your life, is the moment of now.
BECAUSE YOU ARE THE MASTER OF YOUR OWN DESTINY
Although many people and circumstances do interfere with your life, ultimately, you have always a choice. A choice on how you handle a problem, the people you surround yourself with and what you decide to do with the circumstances you have. Positive and negative things that happen in your life were directly or indirectly attracted by the way you lead your life..
I know it’s not always easy to take credit for the negative things that happen in our lives, but ultimately, if we take responsibility over our acts and choices, we will stop playing the victim game and take over our life once and for all. If you don’t like a certain person, then cut contact with her. If you don’t like being pressured by your family, then let them know you’re not following their orders. If you don’t like your job, start slowly searching for something else. If you’d like to see yourself surrounded by different type of people, then start finding ways of entering in that network and associate with them. The moment you realize how much power you have over the outcomes in your life, your life will shift.
BECAUSE THERE’S NO SUCH THING AS FAILURE
Many people live a life of frustration, trapped in fear because they’re too scared of failing. Because failing is not an option, they don’t dare to risk and try something new. But… what if the outcome of a new adventure was not failure at all? What if it would have succeed but, you never dared to try?
And what is failure? The results are not what you hoped for? They’re falling shorter of what you dreamed of? Is that really failure?
The most successful people in the world are not the ones who never failed, but the ones who don’t bend down to a challenge, no mater how many times things have gone wrong. Successful people are the ones who are persistent, who will try it over and over till they get things done. Don’t forget some of the greatest advances in history and science are a by-product of “failure”.
NO TIME FOR REGRETS
Regrets are usually associated with a disconnection towards the important things of life.. A palliative nurse once gathered the top 5 answers of her dying patients, during their last weeks of their lives: ”what are the things you regret the most in your life? All of them, with no exception, regretted 5 things they didn’t do. When I look back in my life I feel the same, I regret not having done a lot of things that were important to me, because of fear or insecurity. I will never know what how my life would have turned out if I would have dared to follow my dreams.
GROWTH HAPPENS WHEN YOU LEAVE YOUR COMFORT ZONE
Grown can only come from out of the comfort zone and not from a automatic, almost robot like routine. Every time you try something new, you’ll be exposed to a whole new world of feelings, desires and challenges. Every time you meet new people, you’ll learn more about them but also about yourself. Trying something scary will push your buttons and make you feel proud of your abilities. Routine destroys friendships, marriages and life turns into ray of grey shades. You don’t need to quit your job to go on a mad hiking trip to the Himalayas (or maybe that’s what you need, but that’s another story!), trying new foods, a new language, start a new activity can be a gentle way of having something exciting to talk about, by the end of the day.
HAPPINESS IS A MAGNET
Happy people thrive and everything seems to work out for them, it’s a fact. Happiness is a magnet, it attracts people, opens doors to new opportunities. When you’re happy you tend to see the world with a positive attitude, focus on the good things of life and see the bad things as a challenge, not a disaster. When you pursue your dreams and you do what you love, happiness happens automatically and destiny will conspire on your favour.
BECAUSE YOUR LIFE IS YOUR LIFE
Your life is your life, not your families life, not your husband or wife’s life… They have to live their dreams and you have to follow your passions. There are many pressures to please others or people who to try to live their dreams through you. This is not fair. This puts you in a position of a spectator and not of the main character on your own life. Be polite but firm when telling other people that although you love them dearly, you can’t do what they want.
Y. Coelho is passionate about vegetarian food and creator of the travel blog Heart of a vagabond.
If you're having this feeling, it can be both inspiring and overwhelming. When it came up for me, it felt like a beacon of light and an unattainable goal at the same time. I had just recovered from eight months of illness after brief kidney failure that nearly killed me.
Critically aware that life is a gift, I wanted to make mine count and feel like my 15-hour days were fulfilling. My next step had to be more meaningful.
The trouble was, I had no idea what that was.
Sixteen months later, I launched a business that is much more suited to who I am, offering a much needed service to my community. How did I do it? By focusing on myself first.
It's impossible to force a question about what is meaningful. Putting pressure on yourself to come up with the answer is a surefire way to get stuck.
Purpose finds you. Sometimes it comes when you're unpacking the laundry or walking down the street looking up at the leaves. Often it shows up everywhere in your life until it surrounds you and the path is clear.
To hear what you truly want long-term, not just short-term fixes that are more reactionary than visionary, it's important to go slowly. This may seem indirect but in the long run it will save you time and painful missteps.
Here is the process I took:
1. Focus on what brings you joy.
What do you really enjoy, so much that you forget the time? Do you spend hours helping your teams, organizing your home, or cooking? Whatever it is, it's probably meaningful to you. Be open to what ever these activities are, even if you think you can’t make a living with them. Once you figure out what gives you meaning, there are many ways to build it into your life. Do more of them to hone in on which part is most meaningful to you.
2. Cut the drag.
Minimize activities that drain you and address what isn’t working. Common issues are health, lack of sleep, high stress, or relationship challenges. These can create a negative or reactionary perspective that distracts you and keeps you stuck.
3. Own your strengths and limitations.
No one is great at everything. Self knowledge and acceptance are key. Focus on your gifts, stop beating yourself up for your weaknesses and outsource them.
For example, I am great sensing what people need and providing inspirational, creative problem solving. I do not enjoy aggressive politics, project management or operations. This means that coaching is a much better fit than selling consumer products.
4. Look for themes.
If you are looking at several meaningful areas and can’t decide which one to focus on, look for themes in your life to evaluate how strong of a fit each direction is.
Where do you spend your time and money? This is likely what you value. What do people consistently say you're really good at?
5. Get involved.
Volunteer, join a club, or take a class. This is a low risk way to build experience and determine whether it is truly the fit you thought it would be. You may make some great connections in the process.
Spend a few months exploring these with no expectations. This will give you deeper insight into what is meaningful to you.
If you want personal support to find the right fit for you then hit me up for coaching below.
Dean A. Sweeney
I aspire to to attain my true nature: pure, unadulterated freedom, joy and bliss. This I will achieve by inspiring others to see not who they are, but who they can be...
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